Profound Parenting and the Blessing of Fear
2 February 2005
Comments from Angela
There are many useful insights in this reading but, above all, it
suggests a model for parenting that seems, to me, highly evolved and
radical. The guides suggest that we parent our children they same way
our guides ‘parent’ us. They have no agenda for us, never judge our
choices or actions and intervene only when asked. While they are 100%
available, our guides do not – indeed cannot – take responsibility for
us in any way, neither can they make us have the experience of life that
they wish us to have. Beyond this advice on parenting, the reading gives
a reassuring and new way to look at fear and its godly place in our
lives. It also contains insights on:
• Allowing communication from spirit
• The partnership between spirit and humanity
• Humanity’s work as ‘converters’
• Vast work within a ‘small’ life
• The true meaning of humility
• Creating the future
• The usefulness of self-worth
• Fear of living out our divinity
• The blessing of fear
• The truth about parental responsibility
• Loose contracts
• Responsibility and God
• The benefit of releasing responsibility for our children
• The highest actions to take in relating to our children
• What is pre-destined?
• Communicating our real self to the world
• Playing with self-expression
• Creating a new path later in life
• Beautifying an intimate relationship
• Moving beyond our habits of expression
Allowing Communication From Spirit
Our dear daughter, of such precious consequence it is that we find you
here on this day, which is to say that it is for us both precious and
significant that we have come to this point in our communications with
you, our connection with you, that we may come across so directly now.
It is only ever, you see, the result - and also it is the natural result
- of such a journey or path as yours that we could pass along our love
and, in second place, some suggestions to you, with such directness and
clarity. In other words it is only, and this is always so, a result of
the journey you have taken up till now - the choices you have made and
the steps you have chosen to walk - that brings you to this point. What
we are suggesting to you, with much love, is our gratitude for playing
with us, that is what we would call it, so many times over the many
years that you have deepened and strengthened the connection so that it
may serve you and serve us so highly [now]. Everything that is available
here for you today, especially the sensation of our love, is only so
because you have created it. It is not the truth, or it is not accurate,
to think that what is given here or in any other receptive space such as
this does not come from you and is not a part of you. Is this
understandable?
Yes.
Thank you.
The Partnership Between Spirit and Humanity
For it is so that the partnership between us and you is so strong, so developed, that we would not distinguish between who is doing the work, us or you. It is not so in a large company, for example a large complex organisation it may be called, that one aspect of the business or even less so, one person, can be considered responsible for the work that the organisation produces as a whole. In the same way it is so with what is created and is available here on this planet. It is not so that spirit can be credited with that on its own. It is a unique and divine partnership, as also you already know, between those of you who exist currently in physical incarnation and those of us who don’t. Our thanks extends to you beyond that. In the first place we have thanked and honoured you for this aspect that we have called communication: we have seen you, felt you, heard you many times communicate with us and indeed it is honoured in the extreme. Thank you for that.
Humanity’s Work as 'Converters'
Yet beyond that we have more, so much more, that we wish to lay at your
feet as gifts of gratitude, or thanks, and the first that we wish to
raise with you is your condition of joy. It is so, is it not, that we
have seen you over some many years convert with your love aspects of
yourself or external situations from a place that may have been becoming
sorrow, into joy. Have you seen that you have done this?
I try to, thank you.
It is of such clear consequence to us, this conversion. In other words,
it is of such apparent energy-shift the work you have been doing that we
wish to respect you and love you for it in this moment. You know if we
could share this with you now, dear sister, it is one of the highest
callings to be a converter. It is, in truth, the real reason of being
for this planet and for all those of you that find yourselves upon it at
this time. You are converters. It is to say that your primary job is to
convert that which you see is not yet divine into that which you know is
divine. So when it is that we honour and thank you for converting
situations, relationships, and indeed your own sense of self into joy we
are honouring you for fulfilling your purpose.
Thank you.
Vast Work Within a 'Small Life'
It is most welcome. Not so much your thanks for, as we have already suggested here, it is also not so that you should thank us for we are in this as a team. Yet, may you know and take to heart deeply that we are honoured to serve you for the work you have been doing here in your small house in what, sometimes, we have heard you think of as a small life. The work you have been doing within this so-called smallness is vast. It would serve you well, dear child, to see that.
The True Meaning of Humility
It is not true or not so that humbleness or humility means not seeing
clearly the effect that you have. We have seen within you and smiled at
it so many times, the value you place on humility. Is that so?
Yes.
We have seen that you have carried this as a way of being and in truth
it is so. Humility, when that is well and deeply understood, is an
aspect of divinity so beautiful and so graceful. Yet also know, if you
will, that your current understanding and practice of the notion of
humility is slightly off course. This is to say, and we give this again
in so much love, that we have watched you mis-acknowledge yourself. In
other words, the acknowledgement of self has been inaccurate and that is
not godly. It is not so that incorrect sight may be considered humility.
The humble human being has an equal sense of where she is strong and
where she is not yet strong. We would not juxtapose strong and weak for
the truth is [that] in your greatest reality there is no weakness there,
there are only moments when your strength is not yet remembered. So to
repeat to you with love, and take this only if you understand this as
truth, that humility is the ability of the human person to see the whole
of herself and to acknowledge the whole of herself. Is that clear?
Yes, thank you.
And so, while we have seen very clearly with you your aspect of truth
when it comes to those areas where you yet wish to develop, we have not
read so strongly your acknowledgement of the moments, the many, where
what you have done - your conversion - has been awesome. We know also
that you know when it has! We know that you are aware of when the way
you have been has converted, as we have suggested, a relationship, a
situation, the mood of another, the wellbeing of another, the wellbeing
of yourself and many more occasions, from what has been sadness, in any
of its forms, to joy. You have seen it and yet not acknowledged the
aspect of divinity in you that has been responsible for that joyous
conversion. It is not humble to mis-acknowledge and, so, our first gift
to you on this day will be to gently push you into a state which we
would call a state of greater reality when it comes to your sense of
self. We are not, as you can see, suggesting anything close to vanity
for, indeed, anything like vanity does not serve you. We are suggesting,
as we have said here, a move towards greater reality, greater clarity,
clearer sight in relation only to yourself. It is not commensurate of a
being of divinity to deny or mis-acknowledge her work and her own
strength. Is that understandable?
Yes.
Creating the Future
And that is with great reason the way we will begin here today so that if you will, you will allow this first teaching to sink in deeply. For if you do, if you make this shift right here, if you accept right here the work you have done in its vastness, you will change the quality of what you will receive in the next few moments. Such is the power of humanity. You have the ability, by taking upon you in your heart here beliefs of higher vibration, to, with immediacy, change the outcome of the very moment you are in. It is another aspect of the function we have called conversion. So, we do so that your power extends way beyond what you have previously known it to touch. It touches, as you sit right here, on the moment just after this one and on the moment just after that one, which is truly the way you change or altar or create your future. That is why we have given such knowledge to you first: that if you can sit here just for some moments taking upon yourself as truth that you have been considered as doing very big work, if you can hold that as truth and therein become humble enough to acknowledge that, the shift that has been done in that time alters the very resonance of you and as your resonance or frequency or vibrational charge changes so it is that our input to you changes also. For we give in relation to what it is that you suggest to us you will receive and, the higher your sense of self, the greater your sense of your own divinity and the higher you vibrate. Does that make sense to you?
The Usefulness of Self-Worth
And so you see therefore that it is serving to you and to those around
you and to the whole of all there is that your sense of self is raised.
And this is amusing to us: it is not a selfish action! The more your
sense of self is matched to the truth of your divinity, the higher you
vibrate and the more you are able to receive from spirit and, therefore,
the more you’re able to create from spirit on this planet. That is the
way of things. It is not so, if you may know, that any master who has
yet walked this planet and those who walk here now, that they deny their
own power. Do you see that?
Yes.
What they are able to do and see, they acknowledge, and therefore they
are able to bring it in its biggest way. For it is only so that the more
you know you are an aspect of God and acknowledge it, the more you will
be able to put that into concrete results. So when you raise your sense
of self you simply allow more of your own angelic nature to become real
or to become the reality that you experience yourself as on a daily
basis. Thank you, our dear one, for receiving this for it is, in truth,
one of the harder learnings of humanity. It is one of the harder
teachings to convey that you are Godly and to acknowledge [that]. There
is yet a repulsion to this idea in much of humanity. So thank you for
being here and opening enough to understand this, to take it on, and now
that you have done so may we continue to place gifts at your feet? At
this time we will at first stand back and ask how it is that we may
present these gifts. In what way specifically on this morning may we
assist you? Please go ahead.
Thank you for it all resonates with me. As far as assisting I would
like, when I do have those little doubts, I would just like some
prompting to hold me up when I do. I know I do have occasional doubts
but I really will make a strong effort to acknowledge more of the
divinity in me I realise that. Thank you, I just need little prompts and
I know I will get them.
Fear of Living Out Our Divinity
It is not entirely accurate to suggest to you that you doubt your
divinity. You know with every ringing cell in your body that you and
everyone else are divine. You never doubt that in truth do you?
No.
So truly it is more accurate for us to suggest to you that you are
afraid of putting that divinity into your reality in the biggest way
possible. It is indeed more accurate to suggest that it is so, rather
than to suggest that you doubt your own nature, for you do not. So
instead, use that understanding to assist you. It is not so that your
beliefs or understanding is in need of correction. It is what you allow
yourself to do with them! It is what you allow yourself to step into as
a result of acknowledging your divinity. There is a difference. There
are many on this planet - and for sure they would not be in this chair
right now - who absolutely have no idea of who they are and from where
they come and to where they are returning and you are not one of these.
You are part of the group that knows it intimately yet fears the power
of what you may do or become or change or create with that divinity. And
so, rather than the word ‘doubt’ for you it will be more useful to use
the word ‘fear’. When you enter into a situation where what you have
presumed is doubt consider, just consider if you wish, to rather use the
word ‘fear’. Ask instead of yourself ‘what am I fearing in this moment’
rather than ‘what am I doubting’. It will serve you more to put your
finger on the actual concern. Is that understandable?
Yes.
The Blessing of Fear
Thank you. The truth is that fear exists as a wonderful gift in this
world you have created. We have an understanding that there are
extremely negative views of fear that exist, especially amongst the
community that consider themselves enlightened. Fear is considered the
enemy and, indeed, while you yet hold that perspective it will be your
enemy. For, as we have said many times now, what you experience is what
you create and, so, if it is so for you that fear is something to be
avoided or to be fought against like an enemy then indeed it will react
to you in such a way. However, if you choose to convert this
understanding to one we suggest, simply you choose to do so, watch what
happens if you consider fear your gift in any moment. If you wish you
may consider fear a friend, something that taps you on the shoulder to
say ‘here, in this moment, because I'm here, because I exist here, there
is a jewel’. Those moments that contain no fear whatsoever are those -
we may share this with you - that contain very little learning.
And so, the truth of it is [that] fear acts as a mask or disguise behind
which lies your greatest jewels. If it were never so that you
experienced fear, then you would not need to be on this planet. Fear is
an intimate, beautiful part of the design. Fear is godly. So understand
that, even though you may not wish to indulge in fear or to allow it to
prevent you from experiencing and expressing your divinity, it is also
divine. It is here with great purpose and so what we would give you on
this day is a tip or a hint: those moments when the fear comes up for
you (that which you have previously called doubt) those are the moments
to be engaged in even more fully! When it is so that you experience that
quickening which is known as fear, then step in more rather then step
out of the situation or the possibility. For truly when you step in it
is so that you acknowledge your divinity. If you can step in when there
is fear then you are saying to yourself and to everything ‘I am godly
and so I can be here. My light is strong enough to be here. I will not
be overcome’. When you do that fear has served you magnificently for it
has raised you in your sense of self. Do you see that?
Yes I do, thank you.
However, the reverse works in this way: when fear comes up for you in
relation to something - even something that we have seen before with
you, something like making a particular phone call - when it is so that
that brings up fear or a tendency to avoid, if you step out of the
moment that has been given to you, in other words, if you avoid the fear
the message you relay to yourself and to the whole is the reverse: ‘my
divinity, my light, is not strong enough to be here’ and therefore that
is what your reality becomes. For you are creating it, as we have said
here repeatedly, by what you hold as belief in your heart at any one
moment. Is that system clear?
Yes.
Thank you. And so it is most exciting for us to be giving this to you on
this day. For some years fear was held in abeyance from you or held at
arm’s length, especially as it is found in the form of taking risks. So
it is so pleasurable and full of light on this day to suggest to you
that your very areas of greatest joy are to be found where first there
is fear to face. Thank you. And now it is again so honourable for us to
ask you if there are - and there are - things you have brought here to
this table that you wish us to address. Please name them.
The Truth About Parental Responsibility
I'd just like to ask about my son.
Yes, we have been waiting for this. Carry on.
I have concern for him.
Yes, great.
I just need some reassurance that he is on the right path, or that I
should just sit back and let him be.
Thank you. So, in truth, the question you ask, if we may rephrase it to
work a bit more clearly, is the question you ask how you may serve your
son best?
Yes.
Thank you. There is no other question a mother may ask and that is the
first teaching we will give in relation to your son. It is not the
prerogative or responsibility or privilege, if you like, of a parent to
direct a child in the area or direction which they presume serves the
child highest. It is not the responsibility of a parent to do so. Hear
that if you will and may you also receive some ease from that. Many
times the aspect of parenting is misunderstood here and again, with such
love, we correct this. For we know the misunderstanding stems from fear.
It is only out of fear for the results of the life of the child that
parents take on the responsibility for that life. The truth of it is
that your children and all children on this planet are equally in charge
of their own destinies as adults. That is true also of a small
two-year-old child. May we show this to you with much love: when the
child falls down the stairs that is the choice of the child and not the
neglect or the responsibility of the mother. Can you see that?
Yes.
Also it may be extended very far, if you will. When a child dies even of
so-called hunger or neglect, it is the choice of the child and not the
outcome of a bad parent. Can you accept that?
Yes.
Equally so may we extend this teaching to your son and also to your
daughter. From the moment they existed, not just physically, they were
given total responsibility of that existence and no one has, as we have
said, the responsibility or the privilege for directing - in any way -
that existence. It is not the job of the parent. Please allow this,
rather than seeing it as an admonishment, to give you some ease in
relation to your son for you have always and continually misunderstood
your role in relation to him and it has compounded. Do you see possibly
in your body the result of compounding? Do you see as a physical action
it is related to that we are suggesting to you - that the compounding of
unnecessary responsibility becomes toxic and, with you, it is so that
the responsibility in particular, though not exclusively, is related to
your two children. Has there been a third child?
No.
Loose Contracts
Yes, indeed, there are three souls that now speak to us as being your
children. The one - if we may explain this, it is a new concept - is
what is called for our purposes a ‘loose contract’. It is not one of
those arrangements that may be considered inevitable, yet it allowed
itself to be a possibility, dependent very much on the choices that were
taken on your road. This soul is always your child. Whether or not she
made herself available physically or not she has existed around you in
much power this little girl. She has been with you all your life. There
have been moments, perhaps you may recall them, moments in your adult
life where you have felt - we have seen this - some great sense of grief
or loss or emptiness and with no reason. Have you ever seen that?
We have seen some markers of this. We do not read emotion in the way
that humans read emotion. Human beings look at the actions of other
human beings and they presume the emotion that lies behind those
actions. So, if someone slams the door, that action is read as anger. We
do not experience emotions from you in this way. We do not read your
actions, we read simply the streaming off of energy from you at any
particular moment. So while it is so that in terms of actions the sense
of sadness has not been apparent, we have watched it in your body
sometimes. Only this is to tell you that you have at your side a very
exquisite little soul. ‘Little’ is only to suggest that she had a loose
arrangement to be your last little girl, ‘little’ is not to suggest the
extent of the power. It is perhaps not in any way useful for you to know
this except that she is available to you as a companion and as a
magnificent strength. She exists around you constantly as her love for
you is astounding. She likes to be called Clara and is always there. So
allow us from that small diversion to return to the teaching of your
children and to show you that, in some ways, an overexerted and
overdeveloped sense of responsibility for their lives has been apparent
in you. Can you see that?
Yes.
The Truth About Parental Responsibility
It is many times the situation when there is a great deal of love for
the children so it is again not in any way something which we wish to
punish you for or rap you on the knuckles about. Yet we simply show you
the results of it for yourself so you may see whether or not you have
served yourself and them. We have shown you of the physical
repercussions, the compounding of worry / concern / responsibility
which, in truth, is not yours. Also it is so that you specifically have
chosen children of great independence. Do you see that?
I definitely see that.
Indeed it is of no randomness. They are here, as with all children and
with all people, to serve and they have selected you (we do not speak
now of your husband for his own teachings are very different from yours,
yet know that he is also applied here. When we suggest you have been
chosen we are suggesting the both of you yet for different reasons) to
serve you in the greatest way they can. That is the love of their souls
and so they will always, as we have shown here, stretch you into fear.
We have spoken already here of the value of fear. We have done so with
great reason and in the order which we have given it, there is also
great reason so that now you may know that when your children push you
into worry (which is also fear) they are giving you a chance to step
into the situation in magnificence. To step in fully knowing and
acknowledging your own strength and divinity and everyday they give you
this opportunity it is a great service indeed. There are many learnings
on your path this time round that your children are responsible for
teaching. Sometimes it is the case with certain families that the areas
of learning are not so much expressed in the parental relationships.
Sometimes the areas of learning are confined to the marriage
relationship or to many others, which is not the case with you. With you
it is your children that challenge you, not so?
Yes.
It is that area where your greatest growth is to be found, at least for
this moment. You may well - we see this as a distinct possibility -
choose to overcome... [End of tape]
Responsibility and God
Yes, it is possible for you to choose to learn although, more
accurately, to say ‘walk-through’ these fears in relation to your
children quite quickly now and then quite possible to move on to a new
level or layer of existence in your own reality and another set of
learnings more subtle will begin. Yet these ones, the ones related to
your children, are deeply related to, firstly, as we have mentioned the
notion of responsibility. It is a great thing to learn the true meaning
of responsibility. By true we mean the understanding that God has of
responsibility. Is it so for you that God takes responsibility for your
life?
I see that I should take more for myself.
Yes. It is not so that some external being, although there is one, ever
takes responsibility for you. Neither us. We exist only to serve you as
you allow us to do and therefore you are at the helm. Do you see that?
Yes I do.
Parenting as Our Guides do
And so it is not so, therefore, that God or spirit takes responsibility
for you. Not any small part of your existence. We respond to you always
in the greatest love, as you request us to do. We come in as much as we
may do from your invitation, yet that is not the same as taking
responsibility. In the same way, in exactly the same way, it is not the
responsibility of the parent, the life of the child in any way. Indeed
if you consider for yourself taking on yourself the mantle or role of
parenthood within the same fashion as you understand the role of your
guides to be in relation to you, you will do wonderfully. May we suggest
you do so. You know well that your guides exist for you continually not
so? They are never unavailable if it is so that you have requested them.
They are always standing by and often have a different perspective on
your life than you do. So sometimes it is so for us that we watched you
do things that, in your language, you may consider mistakes, yet we do
not consider them so. We consider them a natural path you are taking and
we have never any inclination to prevent you from your own choices. It
would indicate to us the highest amount of dishonour if we were to step
in and interrupt your free will. It would be for us denying your own
power and denying the gift of free choice that exists in this place
where you live. If you can hold yourself in relation to your children in
the way we hold ourselves in relation to you, you will be exemplifying
the job of mother. Can you see that?
Thank you and I love the analogy.
It will be most useful for you in relation to your concerns. We have
rephrased your question, somewhat slyly, from the start to the one which
says ‘how may I serve my son best’ and we have answered that question.
We have also said that there is no other question that you may ask. It
is not, although again it is commonly understood to be so, available to
you or to any other mother to channel the life of your child in a
particular way. In the same way is it not available for us to intervene
and push you in a particular way. It would be, as we have said, denying
the divinity within you. And so it is not therefore useful, or possible
really, to answer for you the question ‘where is he going, is he all
right, is he on the right path’? Those are not answerable, if we could
put it that way, for they are not yours to ask. Is that understood?
The Benefit of Releasing Responsibility for our Children
You will see, if you wish, great relief in you to take upon you this
idea of motherhood, which we understand is extremely challenging yet, at
the same time, which may afford you the chance to shift your sense of
responsibility back to the only place it belongs and that is for you.
When it is that you allow yourself the release of your children, at
least the release of such high responsibility for them, the natural
repercussion is a greater amount of energy available for you. You do not
even have to try to do this, it simply is. And so sometimes parenthood
is used as a means of avoiding responsibility for one's own progress,
many times it is so. Not completely in your case yet still you
experience repercussions from this position you have previously taken
that did not serve you and so you will see a higher amount of love
available for you, to you. Love is the same as responsibility, that is
another teaching. You will notice with you a greater amount of focus on
yourself once it is that energetically you begin somewhat to release
your children. Understand that the results of greater attention on
yourself can be truly frightening. Can you see that?
Yes.
When it is that, truly it is so, a human being realises that their only
job on earth, their only job on earth, is to take responsibility for
producing the most beautiful self that they can, then the real work
begins and only then. Our darling girl, your only job is to create on
this planet within these physical confines and within the greatest
confine of all - the duality - the highest level of your divinity here
that you can. You have no other job. You will not be measured - may we
suggest this to you with great joy - at the end of the day by yourself
and by those who serve you by what kind of mother you were. We
understand this is a stretch of belief to take upon you and please do
not if it does not serve you. But we suggest to you with much love that
you will only be measured upon how much of who you really are, in other
words how much of your angelic nature, you brought here to the planet.
It is possible of course that your relationship with your children
allows you to bring more of your own divinity and so, of course, it is a
part of what you do and a great part. Yet simply notice for yourself the
way you have been with them, towards them, until this point. Notice with
yourself that it has often brought worry, concern, fear, in other words,
and that it has had some serious physical repercussions. Do you see that
that therefore is not bringing more divinity but rather less? And so
simply, and this is always the answer, simply do what allows you to
bring the highest amount of peace, honour, joy and love in yourself.
The Highest Actions to Take in Relating to our Children
You cannot produce these states in your children have you noticed? No
matter what you do you cannot create in your children peace if they do
not wish it. You cannot create in their lives joy or relaxation or
responsibility or self-worth. We have said before it is neither your
responsibility nor your privilege to do so. We now extend this to say it
is not within your ability either, neither is it within God's ability,
that is why we have asked the question here whether you perceive God is
responsible for your life. Is he responsible for creating the feelings
of peace within you? No. He cannot do so. As much as he would wish for
you to experience yourself as you really are, he cannot make you do so.
In the same way, in truth there is nothing that you can do to create
within your children the experience of life you wish them to have. Do
you understand that?
Yes.
Yet it is well within your power and, indeed, we have said it is your
responsibility, to create the states you perceive as Godly within
yourself. You can do that. Indeed it is the only thing you can do. We
have suggested here that - and we repeat this with some reason – it is
your only job. It is your only responsibility for being on this planet
to create in you the closest state to divinity that you can and so
notice what, in relation to your children, what position you may take
that allows you to experience your highest divinity. If the position you
are taking in relation to them produces worry or concern or fear then it
is not a position that serves your divinity. Is that clear?
Yes.
And so the only reason we suggest for you to adjust somewhat your idea
of parenthood is so that it frees in you the opportunity to experience
yourself closer to your angelic nature than you currently do. Releasing
your children from the sense of responsibility for them that you have
carried for so long not only serves you in your own experience of your
life and yourself, it is the highest thing you may do for them also. The
way we are with you is a model, that if you wish, you may copy for being
with them. When it is that you approach us for help or advice or love we
give it with such joy and we give it without ever saying no, even if
what we give does not give you pleasure. Sometimes the advice we give or
the suggestions or the feedback to you is not comforting but it is true,
at least it is true from our perspective, and that is the same honoured
way you may respond with your children. The key to that is ‘respond’.
You know by now their signals. You know how they each ask differently
for your presence or your help or your advice. They have very different
means of communication your two children, not so?
Completely.
Yes, it is another part of your challenge, though perhaps we will not
yet move on to the second challenge they bring to you and that is
communication. But we will simply mention here that responding to them
in the highest love as they ask would be the most loving way to be with
them for that is the way we are with you is that clear?
Yes.
Thank you. Do you wish some few words on the communication aspect?
Yes please.
What is Pre-Destined?
Yes, we have heard that. We have mentioned that, in your case, many of
your life themes or lessons - though lessons is not a word that is
accurately understood by many people yet let us use it for now to
explain to you that, when you take on another physical incarnation, you
take on also an agenda, if you like, a certain few aspects of divinity
that this particular life you wish to be challenged upon and stretched
within. Is that understood? It is not so that in one life you could
develop all the many aspects of God so what occurs usually is that the
soul, in constant consultation with his group, decides which particular
notions of his real self he wishes to be challenged upon in the next
incarnation and that is set in stone. The person may choose a variety of
lives once they are here, they may make many choices and these are not
predestined. What you do physically, what turns you take on the road,
are of no consequence to spirit. Those are not the parts of life that
are predestined. What is predestined is what you have chosen to work
with while you're here and, no matter what physical circumstances you
choose to find yourself in, you will be challenged on those things
regardless. Is that understandable?
Yes.
Communicating Our Real Self to the World
It is also so in this new energy, which perhaps you already know, it is
also [possible] to finish that agenda and yet remain in physicality and
move onto another one. Do you know that? It is so, while it has not been
for many many, many, many times on earth, it is now so that the energy
supports the finishing off of one's spiritual agenda or set of lessons
and the moving on to the next without changing physical body. Before it
was always so that you exchanged one physical body for another when you
also exchanged or developed your lesson plan, if we could call it that.
Now it is not so. Yet what we have suggested to you is that one of your
particular learnings or challenges this time round is that of
responsibility. Understanding it as God does, applying it as God does,
and eventually, which we have hinted, that moving to the full knowledge
and experience that responsibility is equal to love. That is part of
your journey here and it is greatly honoured. Another of yours (for some
people choose just one, others choose more than that) is the issue of
communication. It is one thing, which we have already begun to suggest
in this reading, to deeply know yourself as divine, or angelic, and it
is quite another to communicate this effectively to the world and that
is where you’re challenged also. Do you see that?
You are not challenged in the space of mental understanding, correct?
No, you perceive things easily. You understand high concepts of divinity
with the same ease as which some others on your planet understand how to
catch a ball. You are not challenged in the area of what we have
previously called here ‘belief’. You find that most easy, yet it is in
communicating this, expressing it in other words - that is perhaps a
more useful word - in your world, the concrete, practical, physical
world where you are more challenged. Do you see there are some on this
planet, some whom you know, that find it very easy to practically put
out into the world that which they know, even when they know very
little? They are masters at physical expression yet this is an area
which sometimes confounds you and which you have held back in for some
time. And so communication is another challenge and that is why your
children once again so faithfully, with so much love, bring this
challenge right into your home. In their differing styles of expression
in the world they are showing you options of communication. They are
challenging you on your flexibility of communication for, with the one,
what is understood so easily is not understood by the other when you are
talking to them, not so? You see you have to change your style all the
time with each of them. It has taken some time to learn this and it is
very much a part of your learning this time round, in other words the
learning of how in each situation to bring across effectively your real
self. That is a very interesting and unique journey.
Playing With Self-Expression
You would do so well to play around with different rules of
self-expression. It would serve you very well to begin to express who
you are yourself. It’s not that you need a particular message. You do
not need a message to be created in your expression or communication.
You simply always, and can only ever, express yourself. So do not
concern yourself that you have nothing to say. It is not about bringing
across a particular message, it is about bringing across you and you
have held this back for some time. They are many different roads
available to you if you begin to do this work. We cannot suggest to you
at this moment where you might end up in this regard yet simply see, if
you will, communication is a very large part of your life this time
round. It is also why your chosen some skill in language, you see that?
It is not random, it is part of your particular agenda. It is never
random, and so begin, if you would, to take small steps simply in
experimenting with expression in different ways. Even the physical
action of shouting you have not allowed yourself to do for many years.
Do you see that? Shouting is simply an option of communicating for the
human being it has no inherent negativity or positivity. Sometimes
shouting is experienced as extremely moving, sometimes shouting is the
highest way to communicate your intent at any one time. It is simply an
option of expression available to humanity. We are suggesting to you,
you have kept your options of expression quite narrow and so begin to
play, simply play, with how else you may bring yourself into a
situation.
Verbally, you have also relied on very highly. Maybe you wish to learn
again, as you knew when you were a child, that communication, expressing
your own self, can happen without any words. You see that it is also so
for you, that difficulty in physical expression? It is part of the same
learning. It is part of this disjuncture we have pointed out to you with
much love between that who you know you are and that which you allow
yourself to express. You know deeply, very well, and we have no need to
refer you again to this, that you are magnificent, beautiful, honoured,
graceful, and yet it is within your physical self that you struggle to
express this, also in the area of sexuality. Do you see this?
Yes.
It is another area of communication which you have somewhat pushed back
in favour of your verbal skills. Yet understand it is a deep part of
your journey, a deep part, and that is always the reason why you
existed. It is a deep part of your journey to begin full expression of
self, to know in all aspects of what humanity is and how this may be
brought into the world. We will also show you the strong and inevitable
link between the way you express yourself in your intimate spaces - at
home, sexually, with your children - and how you manage to express
yourself in the bigger world. There is such clear relationship between
these two for us that sometimes we don't even remember to teach it. The
small aspects of your life, that is what they are sometimes called, is
the greatest influencer of the big. And so what you allow yourself to be
within your immediate, intimate, small environment sets the pattern for
how much of yourself you allow to be felt and expressed in the world
outside. You will notice this pattern as it pertains to people such as
actors or performers in any way. They are usually quite dramatic within
their intimate environments as well. It is always so that the outside
world will mimic the inside so we are suggesting to you, even in tiny
ways, to begin to express yourself vastly. To begin to bring into the
physical that who you know you are and, in doing so, you begin another
new journey.
Creating a New Path Later in Life
It is available for you, we have said this a little before, to end up on
a path quite different in some aspects from the one you currently
experience as your reality. Right now it is so for you that there are
some many more options of purpose, if we could put it that way, many
more ways of expressing your purpose and it is not so, it is not so,
that these ways are only available at the beginning point of people’s
lives. It is often a mistake that is made in relation to age - that
crossroads or opportunities or choices, the big ones, are only available
at the beginning of life. That is not so. Many times the greatest
opportunities or crossroads or junction points, if you like, are only
available much later on and it is so that while you are not yet at one
of those, if you choose to you may bring it into your life and begin the
road of fulfillment, which is fantastic. You do not need to do anything
to make that road appear. Only if you make some decisions from what we
have given here, if you will, if you make some initiatives and then
begin to express these by your actions, even in tiny ways - what you do,
when you do, that is to let us know that we may bring the path forward.
In your small moments, the tiny details that you think no one knows, if
you begin in those moments to change for example how you express who you
are, simply look at the range of options available and begin to play
around with that. If you do that you signal to us that we may bring in
different opportunities. Is that clear?
Yes.
It is so beautiful for us to be with you now. There is a beauty within
you that matches the beauty you have read about in all the angelic
realms and all the mythologies also of your planet. It is a quality that
we have not yet recognised directly to you in this reading yet it is one
which, for us, radiates perhaps more strongly at this moment than
anything else. Beauty is extremely close to God, that is why human
beings are so attracted to it. Always it is pure, and it is streaming
off you at this moment. It is as if you have a set of wings that extends
beyond even the city in which you are currently living. So vast it is,
your effect. We have spoken of it before - the work you have done in
your life, which possibly you have considered small, is not so. And by
what you have done while you're here - the amount you have received, the
amount you have opened, how much you have changed, this has become more
vast even in the time you have been here. We have shown you that what
you do in each moment determines the outcome of the next, that is what
you have done. You have allowed yourself a vastness of beauty, which we
can only marvel at now and hope that you accept as part of yourself. For
it is of no use for us to honour you for this aspect of yourself if you
cannot see it, grow in it and acknowledge it. Which brings us back to
the very first sentence we have given here. Yet, before we would choose
to retreat, we have for you some two more elements. In a moment we will
ask you to choose from the pack near you two cards, any two that you
like the most, to place them face down on the table next to each other
(butterfly on the top) and we will continue from there.
Beautifying an Intimate Relationship
Yes, thank you. May you also see, which is perhaps more directly evident
in working this way than in the rest of your reading, that you have
chosen these. It is also so that you have chosen to hear all that has
been here today. As we have said, we can only ever give to you that
which you give permission for. That is the way of spirit. Please know
that it is the same with your children: you may only ever give to them
what they give permission for. So within these two cards lies much. We
will begin in a moment with the one on your left. Before turning it we
will suggest to you that this card, we will show you, is like the image
of a brick pathway. The path that you are currently walking up on is
functional. It has bricks, not broken, they are sturdy, they work. Yet
what we will give, this card, will beautify it. [It is] what will allow,
for example, trees and plants to grow on the side of the path and small
tendrils of ferns to come up between the bricks so that the path you
walk is not totally functional for you but also magnificent. Please turn
the card. Thank you. The card is ‘Romantic Partner’ and in this we are
suggesting once again the element of intimacy. Not only as it relates to
sexuality, though that is quite naturally one of the greatest
expressions of intimacy, but in drawing this we would show you that what
will for you beautify your path, what will make it magnificent, is the
added element of intimacy with your husband, which is so available. It
is such a beautiful relationship to us and we see, as we have said
before we turned the card, that it is completely functional. It is not
broken, like the bricks it is sturdy and it is certainly functional and
it works and yet we have said that at this moment there are no beautiful
trees and flowers and magical elements around this path and there may
well be. It is something available to you closely. Available, not
requiring anything that we consider work, simply requiring permission.
It is a wonderful beautifier of your path and quite naturally also his.
If you will allow it and it will be so [tape unclear].
We have an understanding that intimacy requires vulnerability and often
vulnerability, or part of vulnerability, is painful. It means exposing
yourself in both its beauty and its ugliness to another and, very often
in the human experience, we see that that comes with pain. Yet it is
part of what we have suggested to you is one of the very big elements of
your growth and that is the full expression of yourself, also within
this realm. Not simply expressing what is functional or beautiful but
expressing all of you in the intimacy of this marriage. The part of you
do not like can be beautifully held and touched by your husband. There
is immense beauty to be experienced within this relationship. We have
seen it before and simply what we give is this indication or, to be more
accurate, what you have chosen for us to give is the indication that the
path is sturdy, as we have said, the relationship is sturdy and
functional and whole, yet it can be magnificently beautified and the
permission is yours to give.
Thank you. It is greatly honoured this relationship, may we tell you,
that it is one which is greatly honoured and blessed.
Moving Beyond our Habits of Expression
In [the] card on the right-hand side, what exists there - before turning
it we will tell you what exists there - is like, we can liken it to, a
flowing river. Something that is clean and pure and provides much-needed
sustenance or nourishment but, beyond that, also the feeling of freedom.
Please turn it now. Thank you. Yes we have spoken here at length about
expressing yourself with more creativity. We give this card to you
[Creative Expression], or you give it to you, as confirmation of that.
We have also said before its turning that it's a river for your
nourishment, sustenance, purity and freedom. We ended on the word
‘freedom’ in our description prior to turning the card for great reason:
because it is the hugest gift of all from allowing yourself to be
expressive in different ways, freedom. It is what will allow you to take
utter joy in your humanness, what will allow you to take utter joy in
your physicality, in this physical world in which you live. It is
available to be totally joyful here. It is available only when you both
know, as you do, and express, as you do not yet, - vastly express - your
own divinity. That is when joy and infinite freedom are available as
experiences on this planet and so, in turning this card, it is yet
another affirmation for you of extending the range of your expression in
the world as broadly as you can. We have mentioned [that] this can be
done in many ways beginning with, beginning with, as you cook or clean,
doing it another way. Changing the way you bring yourself into the
world, in other words, extending ‘how’, ‘when’ especially and ‘where’
you place yourself as a figure of influence in your physical
environment. You have become much used to your habits in this regard and
they keep you somewhat contained. We are suggesting to you it will be a
wonderful learning and possibly, as we have said, the calling in of a
totally new path if you begin to play with different means of
expression. Not rely on so much perhaps the verbal by putting yourself,
your feelings and your thoughts, your influence [and] your creativity,
putting all of those aspects of yourself into a moment in physical time
in different ways. Is that understood?
I'm not understanding in what ways not to be verbal - it could be more
written or an action?
Yes, that is one possibility. Even within the verbal realm, we have
already suggested that even within that realm, you have limited your
expression. The range of your voice, even the kinds of the words you
use, the kind of voice you use. We have suggested that you do not shout,
have not done so for a while. It is a small thing and we mention it
simply as an example. Singing is another one. There are many, many
different ways - even verbally - that you have at your disposal, simply
to play with. Beyond that, indeed, the realm of action is useful -
physical action, without words - when you wish to express love,
possibly, when you wish to express frustration simply begin to
experiment with what is different for you, what may allow you to place
yourself in the physical more strongly, differently and at different
times than before. There are so many options on this, it is impossible
and not useful to list them. Simply we suggest to you that your range of
expression had become quite small and that this does not serve you in
the biggest way. There are parts of your body that would benefit greatly
from physical expression. It is not to suggest exercise per se, it is to
suggest working with your body, being aware of you using her
differently, at times when possibly you would rely on [verbal] ways to
do so, use your body.
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