Newsletter
February 2009
Hi everyone
I welcome a day that reminds us to love and, particularly, to express that love. But, in the spirit of loving ourselves and each other in a new – liberating – way, I invite you to use Valentine’s Day a little differently this year. My two suggestions are:
1. Cherish yourself
2. Let your partner go
The first invitation gives you the opportunity to love yourself the way you secretly hope someone else, perhaps a partner, will do. If your idea of love is to be treated or touched or written about in a certain way, then let yourself do that for you. It is wonderful, delicious, connecting to also be cherished by someone else, but it can never (even if he’s Sendhil Ramamurthy…sigh) replace self love. When romantic love (either because it is so good or so bad) threatens self love then it is not supporting your wholeness or joy.
The second invitation seems a little contradictory to love, but it is not. As parents, it’s easy for us to see that being with our children in a way that encourages their independence and freedom is good for them (and us) – why do we have a different expectation about partnership? Freedom is the essence of our being and is the state in which we are most joyful. If you want a relationship to thrive and soar, then it is imperative to regularly let each other go. That can simply mean spending time apart, or ‘allowing’ each other to do / say / choose things of which the other doesn’t approve or giving each other some private space in the home or setting up separate bank accounts, dream lists, even email addresses (I had to coach someone on that this week!). This is just a small part of what it means to be Separately Together.
I’m running both a seminar and a workshop on the concept of Separate Togetherness if you are interested in shifting your relationship onto a much higher level of intimacy, honesty and freedom. There are details of both these, and other, events below. Only a few places remain for the next Embody – a weekend workshop to forever change the way you listen to, love and revel in your physical self. The Bull’s Eye below offers a little taste of the concepts we will be embodying on that workshop.
By popular demand I’m running JoyMap again in both Johannesburg and Durban. This is a one-day workshop that uses some fun exercises to clarify your Top 8 Joys and to practically integrate them into your life as it is now. The only kind of resolutions or goals I can support are those that come from your heart’s desires and not from your head, and this workshop will clear that up for you (and give you a good laugh at yourself in the process!). My full Durban itinerary from 4 – 8 March can also be found below.
I’d like to give away a complimentary Valentine’s reading to the person whose message of love to someone inspires me most. Please submit your name, contact details and message to Angela before Friday 13 February 4pm if you’d like to win a free reading. Be creative!
Lots of love to all of you!
Angela
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Johannesburg
Personal Readings and Coaching Sessions
A personal, or couple’s, reading is a session where I channel insight from your higher self about what is most dominant in your ‘field’ at that time. This can include patterns you are holding, some of your life themes, blockages in your body, the particular cycle you are in at the time or what thought patterns may be holding you back from feeling free. Usually there is an opportunity to ask specific questions if you wish to, but the reading will take on a particular direction or set of themes right from the start. The energy of these conversations is gentle, incredibly loving yet also full of humour and practical suggestions.
Time required: 1 to 1.5 hours
Cost: R550.00 in office hours
A spiritual coaching session does not involve direct channelling. It is an opportunity for you to bring specific issues to the session, perhaps those that came up in a previous reading but not necessarily, and to work with my questions and ideas on these. I don’t follow a specific coaching methodology and will work with what comes up in the moment using discussion or physical movement or conscious dreaming or anything else that can move you forward. A warning: I’ve been heard to say ‘I couldn’t give a damn about your success…I’m only interested in your Joy’!
Time required: 50 minutes
Cost: R350.00
Please contact Garrick if you are interested in booking one of these sessions in Johannesburg, Cape Town, Durban or White River. A waiting period of 5 to 6 weeks can be expected.
Group Reading
You can download the latest group readings from our website to hear the kind of insight that is available in that environment. Group readings usually convey a tremendous amount of information in a short space of time – I like to think of them as the espresso of my work – and are mostly attuned to what the particular members of the group or broader humanity are experiencing at the time. They are affordable and a good way to introduce newcomers to the beauty and value of channelling. There is often an opportunity to ask a personal question.
The cost of attending a group reading will remain unchanged at R100.00 for the third year running so that these events are as accessible as possible. Please note, however, that this is an attendance fee and the right to sell or distribute the information remains with Travelling Light. You are welcome to purchase recordings of these sessions at R20.00 per CD after the event.
Next Group Reading in Johannesburg
Date: Sunday 15 February 2009
Time: 4pm to 5.30pm
Venue: Northside Lodge, 31 Knox Street, Waverley
Cost: R100.00 pp
To book contact Garrick +2784 460 8667 or via email
Transformation Game
The Transformation Game was designed at the renowned Findhorn Retreat and is a wonderful way to play out your life. You can find new perspectives, test out your intuition and receive divine feedback – all while playing a board game. Garrick and I offer facilitated Transformation Game Evenings by request for groups of 4 to 8 people. A lovely and lively evening for bookclubs, or groups of colleagues and friends.
Available on request.
JoyMap Workshop
In my experience, most New Year’s resolutions or any kind of goal-setting exercises, are likely to fail for two reasons: Firstly, they are usually based on what you think you should do, rather than what you deeply want to do. In other words, the goals are set only from your head. Failure to sustain these resolutions breeds a sense of self-recrimination, your esteem drops and a cycle of subtle disappointment begins. Secondly, even when your goals are truly aligned with your joy, they may be unrealistic and difficult to integrate into your life as it is now. Why not do it differently in 2009 and begin to sculpt your life – practically - from joy?
I have designed a number of unusual, innovative processes to assist you to see what you really want from the year and to find real, creative and achievable ways to integrate this into your current life with nothing needing to change.
One participant’s experience:
"Being the OCD personality type, I am constantly making lists and
working towards 'goals' and setting new year’s resolutions throughout
the year, because how else can a person exist…. Ha ha – I found a
delicious way yesterday…I spent the day with Angela, a friend and wise
woman, and started learning about me and what I am passionate about as
opposed to what I think or believe I have to be passionate about…
The word goal didn’t even enter my mind and yet I have these BIG dreams
that I announced yesterday and have started towards them…not because I
have to, but because I cannot wait any longer …"
"I would love for you all to experience this joy and excitement…Go
on, give it a bash – the way you look at your life for the next year
will astound you!"
Juanene Frydman, Life Coach and Facilitator, InnerI Consulting
Johannesburg
Date: Saturday 21 February 2009
Time: 9am to 4pm
Venue: Northside Lodge, 31 Knox Street, Waverley
Cost: R650.00 per person (includes all materials and teas, please bring
a light lunch)
Minimum 5 Maximum 10
Durban
Date: Saturday 7 March 2009
Time: 9am to 4pm
Venue: Breathing Space
Cost: R650.00 per person (includes all materials and teas, please bring
a light lunch)
Minimum 5 Maximum 10
To book contact Garrick +2784 460 8667 or via email
Separate Togetherness
I work with a number of couples in my practice and friendship circles that are looking for new ways of having intimate partnerships - ones which are based on ‘wild love’ and real (not token) freedom rather than the more typical model of co-dependency and ‘blaming, shaming or taming’ (Gill Edwards). But there are few role models of such partnerships and most of us default to what we learned in our own childhood homes, especially when we are tired, overwhelmed or scared.
I will be presenting both a seminar and a workshop on Separate Togetherness. The seminar will introduce some new questions and possibilities about partnership and I will share some of what has come up in readings about this. Anyone may come to the seminar – whether they wish to do the workshop or not.
Separate Togetherness Seminar
Date: Friday 20 March 2009
Time: 7.30pm
Venue: Northside Lodge, 31 Knox Street, Waverley
Cost: R100 pp, R170 for couples
To book: Contact Garrick at +2784 460 8667 or
email.
Cape Town
Personal Readings and Coaching Sessions
If you would like a personal reading or coaching session during Angela's next visit, please contact Garrick via email or at +2784 460 8667.
White River
Personal Readings and Coaching Sessions
To book on Angela's next visit contact Garrick +2784 460 8667 or via email.
Separate Togetherness Workshop
The Separate Togetherness workshop is for 10 people (5 couples) who are committed to their own joy and to creating a relationship which truly supports that. I am not taking a purely theoretical approach but will instead build what I have learnt about healthy partnerships into processes focussed on the real-life gifts and challenges of the relationships in the room. Garrick and I will also share our own experiences of partnership and what we are discovering about being separately together.
This workshop will require honesty, courage and commitment, and will therefore deliver life-changing results. It is not specifically intended for relationships in trouble, but rather for couples who value their partnership enough to want to work on and deepen it.
Follow-up support after the workshop will be available.
Date: Next workshop: Friday 2 October – Sunday 4 October 2009
Venue: Boondocks Mountain Lodge, between Nelspruit and Barberton
Cost: R 8 500.00 per couple includes workshop, full accommodation,
delicious meals and exclusive use of this magnificent lodge and
labyrinth.
Maximum 5 and minimum 3 couples. Please book soon
To book: Contact Garrick at +2784 460 8667 or
email.
EMBODY
A workshop for those whose hearts are big enough to fall in love with their bodies‘My weekend at Boondocks, carrying out the EMBODY workshop was more than life-changing. Each process allowed me to take a step forward towards my own divine beauty. Never have I felt so free in all 34years of existence on this earth. Every step I took was magical and it unlocked a new aspect of deep understanding to the questions I have always asked regarding my body. WHY is my body the way it is? Never will I need to ask that question again. I have discovered my new best friend (my body). The miracles have continued into my everyday life and GRATITUDE is the only word that comes to mind when I think of my weekend at Boondocks’ – Tracy (34)
‘First of all, I feel that my shoulders have opened up so much more
and I feel so strong- actually a customer even asked me today... which
made me smile. Thanks for giving me the opportunity to shed that
last part of shame I had been carrying with me for so long...’ – Gunter
(31)
‘Thank you, for a once in a life time experience. I feel like a totally different person, and I hold my Body in a new light. I feel as though I am enveloped in a glow. Maybe that’s a sign of actually getting younger. There is no sign of any pain. - Ina (65)
The previous Embody Workshop yielded some miraculous and dramatic shifts in participants’ relationships to self-esteem, eating, exercise, sexuality, pain, relationships and awareness of life purpose. To read more about this pioneering process, including more stories from graduates, please visit here.
If you are brave enough to fully see and listen to your own body, compassionate enough to accept the bodies of others and wild enough to fall unconditionally in love with your physicality – forever - then I invite you to Embody.
Date: Friday 27 – Sunday 29 March 2008
Venue: Boondocks Mountain Lodge, between Nelspruit and Barberton
Cost: R 5 800.00 includes full accommodation, delicious meals, 30 hours
of personalised input from two expert facilitators and exclusive use of
this magnificent lodge and labyrinth
To book: Contact Garrick at +2784 460 8667 or
email.
The workshop is restricted to 10 people and is nearly full so please
book soon. 25% deposit secures booking.
"It is our bodies that are meant to
shape us, not us who are meant to shape our bodies"
Angela Deutschmann.
Durban
Talk on Life Purpose
Wednesday 4 March 2009
7.30pm
Breathing Space
R50.00 per person
Personal Readings or Coaching Sessions
Thursday 5 and Friday 6 March
22 Maryvale Rd, Westville
R550.00 per session
JoyMap Process
Saturday 7 March 2009
9am to 4pm
Breathing Space
R650.00 per person
To book for any of these please contact Garrick at +2784 460 8667 or email.
Bull’s Eye
A New Way of Being With Your Body
This is an excerpt from a reading, which discusses the mind-body relationship. It talks to us of relating to our bodies through our own opinions and not the opinions of others. It is information like this - crafted into processes - that underlies the Embody workshop
‘Most people experience their bodies through the eyes or the opinions of others. Most adults will, for example, look at themselves in the mirror and they will not relate to what they see in terms of their own experience of it. Immediately, imperceptively - and it’s a fascinating mental process - they will look in the mirror and they will make a presumption of what someone or a couple of others will think about that which they see and then they relate to themselves that way, both positively and negatively. So, they will look in the mirror and they will see that their breasts look enticing in that particular outfit. But they are thinking about the impact that their breasts will have on other people who see them in that outfit. Or they are thinking, as they look at that pair of shorts, what that exposure of leg is going to raise in other people who look at them. This is just the simplest example we can give. But, in general, we find people relating to their bodies via the presumed opinion of someone else, or a couple of others or a doctor or even just the general population, about 90% of the time It is very, very significant, this kind of thinking. It is not only happening in terms of clothes and make up, that’s just the simplest example we could give. It happens in every other form of relating to the body as well.
Can you imagine how you would be in relation to your body if it were only a relationship between you and you, and not via someone else? You would have a very different relationship with your body. You would not only dress differently and adorn yourself - in all ways - differently, you would be walking in such a way that pleased you, you would be touching yourself in such a way as pleased you, you would be engaging with the parts of your body only, only in terms of how you feel about them. The relationship would be based on your thoughts and your way of loving without the presumed opinion of anyone else coming between you and your body. You would also be likely to pick up and to treat illness in your body much more quickly and wisely if you owned how you felt rather than outsourced that ownership to anyone else.
Let’s give you a good analogy for this: bring to mind your relationship, your way of dealing with your children, your way of loving them. Sometimes you are aware that the way you are with them is because of a concern about the opinion of someone else. What will that person or those people think about their behaviour, or this habit that they have, or this way we do things? And sometimes - not often - you relate to your children via the opinion of society, or the opinion of your mother, or the friends in the room, sometimes. But mostly you love your children from you to them. You listen to what they say, and you engage with what it means for you, you play with them between you and you. You do not play with them in a way that you think that the head mistress of that school would like you to play with them. It is sometimes that people will parent via the opinion of someone else but not completely. So you can understand it when we relate it to another human being - that sometimes you are with your children via the opinion or the presumed opinion of someone else. But with the body it is 90% of the time that the way you are engaging with it is via the opinion or the presumed opinion of someone else! Can you imagine what it would be like if you were with your children 90% of the time via someone else? They would experience you as absent. Even if you were present, but you were raising them or playing with them or being with them in order to meet with someone else’s approval, they would experience you, the fullness of you, as absent. It is the same with the body. If you are engaging with the body via the opinions of other people, including ‘experts’ on exercise or nutrition or whatever it may be, if you are loving your body via someone else’s idea or opinion, your body will feel you as absent. And it will need to call your attention back to itself in one way or another, as children do when they feel they are being ignored.
We are not suggesting that you don’t go to the doctor or that you don’t read about nutrition, not at all. But allow yourself the privilege of engaging with your body through your own opinion of it, without a third person in the room, or a fourth or a whole society for that matter. Some do exist that way – and you would be able to see them. You would be able to spot it, in the way that they walked, and in how they dressed, whether the primary aim of their experience of their bodies was to please themselves. You can spot it a mile off, when someone in their body is more concerned about themselves than about anyone else, you can feel it, you will be able to see it. And it is available for you, or we would not raise it at all.’
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